The UNKAGED™ Woman Podcast with Brig Johnson, APN, MSNA. Where high-achieving Black & Brown women reclaim themselves.

This episode is a call to embrace discomfort.

Most of us embrace comfort and resist anything that may lead to discomfort. This is because we can only embrace what we are not afraid of. Evolutionary wise, we were designed to seek comfort– to seek pleasure and to stay the same. That is our survival mechanism. It's in our DNA, but also, there are specific societal conditioning and cultural factors that reinforce our desire for comfort.   

However, when we stay in our comfort zone, we can become unfulfilled and stagnant. So how do you embrace discomfort so that we can grow into our epic sh*t? Listen in to learn how. 

And if you need additional support with releasing the good girl standard of living, get on the waitlist for the Deeply Rooted Group Coaching Program by visiting www.brigjohnson.com/group for more details.

 

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Today, I want to talk about something that I think is important for us to understand and that is the difference between our objective, our tactics, and understanding the strategy behind them. 

As high-achieving women, we are very clear about our objectives. We know exactly what it is that we want to achieve. 

What I want to help us gain clarity around is the tactics that we choose to use to accomplish the objective. It is important for us to know that using tactics without a deeper understanding of the strategy behind them can lead to outcomes that we don't necessarily like. And a lot of times, not only do they not work, but they send us backward. 

Listen in as I share how you can select the correct tactic you need to accomplish your objective by identifying the appropriate strategy to execute the tactic. 

And if you need additional support with releasing the good girl standard of living, get on the waitlist for the Deeply Rooted Group Coaching Program by visiting www.brigjohnson.com/group for more details.

 

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In this episode, we’re catching up with two of my former clients from a year and a half - two years ago, Ruth and Marcia. 

I've brought you several conversations on this podcast with high-achieving women while they're in the coaching container so we know what happens then, but I wanted to talk about the transformation, and how it keeps paying off even after you've left the coaching container. 

So listen in as we talk about everything black women, one-on-one coaching, and why investing in ourselves as black women are so important.

And listen, if you're a high-achieving woman ready to cultivate more meaningful and fulfilling relationships with yourself and others, and you take your business and professional growth to the next level, my coaching program is perfect for you. You don't have to continue putting others first and neglecting your own needs and desires in the process, because remember, you are your greatest asset. Let's work together to create a life that you enjoy.. If this interests you, reach out to book a Breakthrough Call at https://brigjohnson.kartra.com/survey/Salescall. 

 

GUEST INFO—

Ruth Duren, Life Coach for Immigrant Business Women

Ruth Duren, I am a Life Coach and Master in Business Administration. I am the life coach for Immigrant Businesswomen. I help them create the income they want without working longer and harder than necessary. My passion is to help as many immigrants create their dreams without sacrificing the life they dreamt of. I was born and raised in Kenya, East Africa, and live in The Land of Pueblos, aka Albuquerque, NM.

Website: https://www.ruthduren.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ruthdurenlifecoach/

Instagram: https://instagram.com/ruthduren

 

Marcia Thomas Paine, Life Coach for women over 35 who are separating and divorcing

Marcia Thomas Bayne is known as the Life Shifting Coach. She helps women over 35 who are separating and divorcing jump off the hamster wheel of their past and live unapologetically in their present.

Instagram: @theothersideofdivorce

Email: mt.tosod@gmail.com

 

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Apologizing to you for being you is like you have this, “ I'm sorry, I am the way I am” kind of vibe going on. 

This may not be something that you do subconsciously or even to other people, but apologizing to you for being you is an internal discourse within you that is keeping you from where you want to be.

Even if you're working on improving yourself, you don't do that through apologizing for who you are, you do that by owning, “This is who I am, and this is where I am”. You don't argue with it, and resist it because you will never get to where you want to be by apologizing and resisting where you are. 

Stop apologizing for reactions in your body to things that happen in this world, inside of you and around you. It is meant to be felt. It is meant to be experienced.  You have a right to be here. You have a right to be yourself. And you have a right to your feelings. No apologies need it. 

I want you to live unapologetically within the confines of your body. Listen in to learn how.

And if you need additional support with releasing the good girl standard of living, get on the waitlist for the Deeply Rooted Group Coaching Program by visiting www.brigjohnson.com/group for more details.

 

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Have you ever wanted to quit something?

I’m sure you have…most everyone at some point in life feels like throwing in the towel when something gets hard or frustrating.  

This is what happened to my client Maïmouna Diop, a  high-power, bada** black woman who almost gave up on pursuing her epic shit.

In this conversation, she will share …

• Why she decided to give coaching a try 
• The importance of coaching for an entrepreneur
• Her experience with creating a documentary and how coaching has impacted this journey
• Why she decided to complete a second round of coaching
• How she address feeling isolated while pursuing her epic shit
• Her winning strategy now vs. before coaching
• What it's like to transition from always doing to simply being
• The value of coaching for entrepreneurs

 

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE—

Good Girl Series:

EP. 121 Bad Things Happen To Good Girls

EP. 122 Redefining GOODT ENUFF

EP. 123 Suffering and the GOODT Black Women MENTALITY

EP. 124 What to do after a F*%k up

 

GUEST INFO—

Maïmouna Diop, Founder of MDW Consulting

Website - https://mdwconsulting.fr/ 

 

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Continuing our conversation from EP. 121 Bad Things Happen To Good Girls, EP. 122 Redefining GOODT ENUFF, and EP. 123 Suffering and the GOODT Black Women MENTALITY, today we are talking about what to do when you don't get the results you want.

So we’ve been focusing on this good girl mentality and how we have labeled negative things that happen as a problem and identifying that problem as being us, which leads to a false sense that if we were somehow different, this wouldn't have happened. We forget that life is 50/50, good and bad things happen, and we can't control it, and so when the “negative thing” is happening, we think we did something wrong. 

But what if you made a mistake? What if you did choose something, and now the consequences are putting you a couple of steps backward on your journey? What do you do after a f*%k up?

Let’s go there and discuss how to move forward.

And if you need additional support with releasing the good girl standard of living, get on the waitlist for the Deeply Rooted Group Coaching Program by visiting www.brigjohnson.com/group for more details.

 

MENTIONED  —

Collet McKenzie, Podcast Manager | Website: https://www.colletmckenzie.com/home 

EP. 12 Be A Boy Scout for Your Goals

 

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Continuing our conversation from episodes, EP. 121 Bad Things Happen To Good Girls and EP. 122 Redefining GOODT ENUFF, today we are talking about  suffering.

As we discussed previously, we have certain thought errors that are holding us back from growing and thriving in our epic-ness. When we think that we're not being the “good girl" , problems happen, then we make it a problem that we have a problem.

Here’s the thing, life is 50/50, good and bad. No matter how “good” you are, you will still deal with pain, disappointment, embarrassment, grief, etc. It is inevitable. 

So if pain is a normal part of the human experience and it's not a problem, then what is causing suffering? You’ll be surprised to know that suffering is optional. Tune in to learn more.

And if you need additional support with releasing the good girl standard of living, get on the waitlist for the Deeply Rooted Group Coaching Program by visiting www.brigjohnson.com/group for more details.

 

MENTIONED  —

EP. 03 Paying Fetch

EP. 69 Cyborg Thinking 

 

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In this week's conversation, I'm expanding on the discussion started in last week's episode, EP. 121 Bad Things Happen To Good Girls, around the good girl syndrome. 

Last week I shared that we think if we are living by the standard of the good girl, then the good girl doesn't have problems, and so we believe having a problem is a problem, but it's not. 

The problem is that we think “this” shouldn't be happening because “this” doesn't happen to good girls. Not true. The good girl standard is the problem. And this standard is causing us to feel like we are not good enough.

These are thought errors that are holding us back from growing and thriving in our epic-ness. Let’s correct these thought errors by redefining good enough. 

So grab a pen and paper then press play to tune into this interactive episode to learn how to redefine good enough.

And if you need additional support with releasing the  “good girl syndrome”, get on the waitlist for the Deeply Rooted Group Coaching Program by visiting www.brigjohnson.com/group for more details.

MENTIONED  —

EP. 03 Paying Fetch

EP. 69 Cyborg Thinking 

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Have you ever asked yourself these questions:

• Am I a bad girlfriend if I reply to texts late? 
• Am I a terrible friend for canceling plans? 
• Am I a bad person if I don't have a certain amount of money?

What you're grappling with is the “good girl syndrome”. 

From childhood, many women are socialized to please others, at the cost of their own well-being or needs. The world is screaming: If you’re good, nothing bad will happen to you. And so we adopt the idea that good girls don't upset people, good girls don't put herself first, good girls don't disappoint others. These are thought errors that are holding us back.

Listen in to learn how to shift these thoughts so that you can grow and thrive in your epic-ness.

And if you need additional support with releasing the  “good girl syndrome”, get on the waitlist for the Deeply Rooted Group Coaching Program by visiting www.brigjohnson.com/group for more details.

 

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We are celebrating women's month and what better way to celebrate than to highlight some of the amazing high-achieving women I have had the pleasure to work with.

At the conclusion of a  weekly call with the April cohort, I just asked a couple of the participants to stay on and talk about what their experience has been like and the impact that Deeply Rooted has provided for them thus far. 

For those of you who are thinking about joining this room full of women and would appreciate some insight on what you can expect, I have a treat for you.

Take a listen to these amazing transformation stories and if you are ready to start your journey of self-love, self-acceptance, and internal peace all while enjoying the connection and community with like-minded women, join the next group coaching program cohort. 

Get on the waitlist for the Deeply Rooted Group Coaching Program by visiting www.brigjohnson.com/group for more details.

 

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE —

EP. 81 Finding Peace with LaTida

 

CONNECT WITH OUR GUESTS —

Dr. Adrienne, Food Mindset and Life Coach

Franchelle Cesar, Financial Coach for Spenders | Instagram - @the_budget_diary

Mars Lord, Life Coach, Dula, Activist, Educator | Website - https://marslord.co.uk/home/ | Twitter - @_MarsLord |

Instagram - @_MarsLord

Marlene McNally, Life Coach | Website - https://marlenemcnally.com/

 

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